1.28.2009

the worst possible outcome

Joe didn't match anywhere and was not offered a residency. I don't know what will happen. We are really hurting right now.

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Fiona said...

Hi Jenny,

I'm a long-time reader-not-commenter and I just wanted to say that I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope you manage to find a silver lining :)

DameJame. said...

Jenny,

I've never commented before but wanted to write and say I am wishing you both the best, and that I hope a new path illuminates and reveals itself to you soon.

My best wishes.

Jaime.

Samantha said...

So sorry to hear that. And I'm sure that this hasn't helped your stress levels! But it will all work out for the best, somehow it always does. Sending lots of good thoughts your way...

Heather said...

Well crap. All I can come up with are well intentioned but unhelpful cliches, so crap it is. I hope this turns around for you quickly.

cindy : quaint said...

i'm very sorry to hear this, jenny. i hope you two can find strength together and take the next step on the path you create for yourselves. xo, cindy

debbie said...

Sorry to hear that! :(

I hope everything works out for you two.

sarah said...

i'm so, so sorry. i hope *something* positive can happen out of this. condolences, condolences for you both.

DUSKIN said...

sorry to hear that...i don't know you but i feel for you. hope it all ends up working out some how...

Tasha T said...

This is so unfortunate, but something will surely work out. Best of luck and well wishes!

kate said...

hi jenny,
i'm so sorry to hear that. it will work out, even if it doesn't feel that way now. but it still sucks.
take care of each other and know you are being thought of.
k
xo

alyson. said...

oh Jenny, I'm so sorry to hear that. you have to know that things happen for a reason and as cheesy as that may sound to you right now, something will come of it. :) keep your hearts happy and we'll be pulling for you.

seedstitching said...

jenny and joe...
i'm sorry. that totally sucks.
i wish i could bake you some cookies and make you two a pot of tea...
all my best goes to you.
xo
tiffany

glorisa said...

I'm sorry it didn't work out. Things will work out for the best...just trust that.

Lara said...

Hi Jenny,

I've also never commented before but was really pulling for you guys and I'm just so sorry to hear this news...

Wishing you comfort and luck from NC,
Lara

jean said...

Oh no! I hope something comes through for you two. Good luck and best wishes!!

Anonymous said...

Sorry to hear that.

Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear the news.

With the state of things, I have been volunteering to distract myself, realizing how valuable you are as a person to others has been helpful for me.

You are so lucky to have each other.

claire said...

aw jenny & joe, i'm so sorry to hear that! but i know in my heart that something wonderful will be just around the corner.

Lucys Place said...

Oh I'm so sorry. I assumed (as others might have) that you were both simply basking in good news and didn't have time for an update.

I definitely believe something better will be around the corner. Best of luck.

wendy said...

I'm so sorry...

Deann B. said...

Thinking of you and hoping things turn around quickly for you both!

potty mouth mama said...

Don't lose hope - something fantastic will come out of this. Stick together and ride out the sad days together. From what I've read of you, you're both amazing, brilliant people. Goodness is waiting for you. xxx

Stephanie said...

I'm so, so sorry to hear that. I had my fingers crossed ... I'll just keep them crossed and hope that something unexpected and wonderful happens.

Take care.

Mar5195 said...

I'm so sorry. I wish I had some advice to give.

Deborah said...

I'm really sorry to hear that...I hope things will turn our better in the end.

SASHA said...

don't think of it as a personal rejection, think of it as directly related to an economy that is, in all directions, tightening. still, i'm really sorry to hear what you guys are now dealing with. whenever things feel like they can't get much worse, they really do somehow suddenly get better. in a round about way, things ultimately line up as they should.

Anonymous said...

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this news. You've inspired so many people with this blog. Please know that we're all sending you our best wishes to get through this difficult time. I'll keep you two in my prayers. I know that this will work out somehow.

Peace be with you.

Julia said...

oh crap. i'm so sorry. this is such a tough time for so many. i do hope you two can find some solution that works for you both, at least for the time being. sending peace and love and laughter too.

EliseBlaha said...

oh no.

i am sure no words can make things better right now.

i am so sorry.

kristina said...

Jenny, hang in there and please know that there are many of us out here thinking of you and of Joe and of "what is next." My husband and I have been through some very hard things during our marriage----involving, yes, jobs and careers and moving and a lot of personal stuff----and we've made it through together and have been able to look back.

Things will work out. It's a cliché, but they have a way of doing that, just when you are not looking for it.

Anonymous said...

i am so sorry to hear that. something will turn up. keep your faith even though it is hard to bear right now.

Jess(ica) said...

I've never commented before, though I've enjoyed your blog for some time. My thoughts are with you in this difficult time. Keep your heads up though. The same thing happened to a friend of mine last year, and he ended up getting his first choice a couple months later. There is always hope.

Mich said...

oh my gosh my heart just sunk. i'm so sorry to hear that.

Jenny said...

This happened to some people we know. After a brief detour, they were right back on track. Sorry you were thrown for an unexpected loop - but have faith that you will look back at this as a mere bump in the road!

miss sophie said...

jenny - i'm so sorry. you and joe will get through this, though - all of us here in the blogosphere are rooting for you guys.

knitchka said...

I'm so sorry to hear your news. I'm sure you don't want to hear trite assurances right now, but there's a reason they get repeated so often. As someone who faced some tough luck and unhappy times in her 20s, I'll tell you that I do feel like a wiser and better person because of it, even if my life now isn't how I pictured it would be ten years ago. And you and Joe have each other, which is everything. Hang in there!

jen said...

I'm de-lurking, having adored your blog for a while, to add my commiserations to the list. I hope it sorts itself out soon, and until then I'll be sending lots of well-wishes (and plenty of imaginary brew) from across the pond. Jen x

mallory said...

Ah Jenny, I am really sorry about that. What a crock of turds. If you need a partner in wine drinking, I'm here for you.
-Mallory

cassiana said...

I'm very sorry to hear your news. Sending you guys good thoughts from NC. Samuel Johnson would say "Hope is itself a species of happiness, and, perhaps, the chief happiness which this world affords."

Susan said...

On to the scramble? Good luck to you both. I wish you well.

Kristien said...

God Jenny, I'm so sorry to hear this. I've been checking your blog frequently over the past couple of days, excited to hear about where in the U.S. you were going next! I can only imagine how disappointed you and Joe must be after what you have described as a difficult year of being apart far too much. I don't have a good understanding of how the matching process works, but it doesn't seem fair that after so many years of hard work and sacrifice, this is the outcome. I am confident that something very good is around the corner, and that Joe will end up practicing medicine in the location that is right for both of you. Best of luck and know there are a lot of people out there pulling for you.

Anonymous said...

I'm with Heather and her "oh, crap!" It's like a sucker punch that knocks the wind out of you...but something will shake loose. It will.

elenagold said...

dear jenny,
im so sorry about the bad news. i'm thinking of you and wish there was something i could do. be gentle and hang on to that good boy of yours.
elena

rachael said...

I'm also a long time reader and non-commenter and I found myself anticipating your next post. I'm so disappointed to hear this. I really wish you the best.

Anonymous said...

Hi Jenny,

I know right now it seems like there's no road ahead of you, but the beautiful thing about this country's academic system is that there are so many routes to take.

This is just a bend in the road or, in the worst case scenario, invitation to try one of the side routes.

Don't worry, Joe's education was so hard for a reason - it's prepared him well to be a doctor, and it'll happen.

Viv

Anna Allen said...

Wish you all the best, Jenny! I'm sure something will turn up. :)

Kelly said...

Jenny,
Just wanted to de-lurk to say sorry. I hope you are both doing alright.

meg said...

complete and absolute rubbish. i'm really sorry. it's one of those things where you know it will work out, but the whole getting it to work out part is terrible. hang in there.

Soon, Then said...

Oh Jenny, I'm so sorry you're going through this right now. I hope you find some peace in your lives until things smooth themselves out, and don't worry, they will! They ALWAYS do. Hang in there, and keep on a keepin on.

Nina said...

i've been reading for quite a bit now, silently admiring your style, your work, your lovely relationship with your husband, and hoping for the best with this huge turning point in your life. i've never commented, but feel compelled to offer you my good thoughts and wishes. i'm sure my words might be of little comfort to you and your husband right now, but i have faith that things will turn out for the best. my hope is that you will feel some peace soon. xo, nina :)

K.Line said...

I'm so sorry to hear this. My positive vibes are with you.

Anonymous said...

i do empathise! my husband and i moved to australia for better career opportunities but he's been unemployed for two months. it's a struggle. and it hurts. he's highly qualified too.

i just want you to know you are not alone. we need to stay strong as nothing lasts forever...especially the hard times.

martha said...

oh jenny. that sucks. the same thing happened to my sister-in-law (she went to school and lives in lawrence) and it just completely threw her for a loop. I hope you are able to find a silver lining, and I'm sure things will turn around soon.
take care.

Anonymous said...

It is total crap. But you are so cool and creative, smart and beautiful, it will all work out....just might not be what you expected.

Mouse said...

Jenny, I'm so sorry to hear about this outcome. Nobody would wish for these results. But these setbacks are temporary, and something good will come out of it.

Joyce said...

Oh, dear. I hope it will work itself out --Keep your chins up!

sonia said...

so so sorry to hear that, jenny. :(
i really do hope that things will work out for the best. sending you both a big hug.

sarahjane said...

So sorry.

Louise McCown said...

i have loved reading your blog for months now and i just am so sorry to hear that. i'll say a prayer for you that you and joe both are given peace.

ginny said...

blurg. hang in there jenny.

misadventuresofkellyandkelly said...

so sorry to hear this! i'm agreeing with the others though, amazing things await you, it will sort itself out. i will keep you in my thoughts!

Anonymous said...

so sorry to hear the news. i hope you're taking many deep breaths... giving eachother lots of hugs... and remaining hopeful about the amazing adventures the future most definitely holds. everything will be okay.

aLi. said...

hoping for the best for you two! hang in there! did he try for any other locations other than the 12 you listed?

http://www.residentswap.org/Urology/CA/

http://www.ucdmc.ucdavis.edu/urology/education/residency_program/

Kristi said...

Jenny, I don't think I've commented before but I want to add to the well wishes. I'm sure you both must feel so stuck right now, but as somebody who's had that feeling many a time: hang in there, you'll get unstuck.

emily said...

Jenny, I'm so sorry.

Anonymous said...

Jenny, I just wanted you to know that you have well-wishers in Australia. I love your blog and I am hoping that things will turn out well for you both.

Kim

elly said...

jenny and joe,

all three of us have been thinking of you constantly over the last two days. we are so sorry. you still kick ass in our eyes and we love you,

e, d, and t

Laura said...

more well wishes coming from over here. :( hugs and hugs and hugs.

sarah said...

oh gosh, what sadness. maybe there's some comfort knowing that (near) total strangers are sending good thoughts your way and hoping for the best. add my name to that group. xo.

heather said...

hang in there, jenny. i've really enjoyed following your blog, and i know that you and joe will get through this.

UNIFORM Studio said...

I'm thinking of you guys.
xo

Roxanne said...

My prayers are with both of you. I hope your path leads somewhere even better then you could have hoped.

Allison said...

Jenny,

I've been a reader for awhile but have never commented before. I'm so sorry to hear the bad news. Stay positive! Good things will come out of this - you'll find out what they are soon enough.

kristin said...

Jenny, I don't if things work this way or not when going for a residency but I'm assuming that some people have been offered multiple residency options and have to decline them. I wonder if checking back with those hospitals may result in discovering an opening that resulted from someone else turning it down. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you both!! (I'm a newbie to your blog and I really appreciate your beautiful work!!) Good luck!!!

Corinna said...

So, so sorry to hear the news. Everything happens for a reason. While that may be little comfort at the moment, looking back I hope it's all clear. Hang in there and try to stay positive. I know there's a silver lining somewhere.

Rachel F said...

Like many, I have never commented before, but have admired your blog for a long time. I wanted to let you know that I've knew a few people that had to scrambled after the match. And many ended up in amazing places and are very happy now. I know this will work out for you two.

MeowGirl said...

good thoughts from here too. hope things work out wonderfully somehow.

Anonymous said...

My thoughts are with you. I know the match system well and wish it were different. Best wishes for the next part of your journey.

fleur_delicious said...

Oh jenny. I'm so sorry. Hang in there, something will come along. It's hard, but try not to lose faith - life has this way of working out. Thinking of you and Joe...

kipperson said...

hugs. that's all. just hugs

kr

cacrafter said...

I don't know what to say other than I am so, so sorry. I am a long time reader and I have rarely commented (even though I think your designs are outstanding). I was moved to tell you how sorry I am. I can only hope that there is a *reason* for this. A plan that you are unaware of. Some new direction that is afoot. I've received bad career news in the past - and it has always taken me in a new, better direction. I think you guys should just pack up and move to Portland anyways. You're young and in love!!

Anonymous said...

De-lurking to say that like many others I've been pulling for you both the last couple days. I saw Joe's comment last night and thought, What a good guy. That was so kind of him, even though it must have been hard. When I logged in tonight and saw your posting, I couldn't help choking back tears.

Hang onto each other tight and don't let the stress of it all come between you in these next days. It's all so crazy and uncertain but we know that you will be okay and that you will get through it (even if it's just one day at a time!)

flowerpress said...

That's very sad, I hope that better things are to come.

Abby said...

Oh Jenny....
hugs to you, friend.
I am so sorry...

cristalle said...

This news absolutely breaks my heart! You are both amazing and talented people and deserve the best- as illustrated by the loads of people whom you've touched and have felt compelled to send you thoughts of love and support.

But in the meantime, maybe he could fill in as your new seamstress?? Or teach him to knit... it's what kept me sane and occupied when I lost my job a year and a half ago...

in_NZ said...

Please know that even your long time lurkers are thinking of you and wishing you all the best.

It must be scary and really tough for you guys at the moment, but but this too shall pass. Things WILL work out in the end, you just need to take a deep breath and get through this horrible bit.

Best wishes,
B

katie said...

i am so, so sorry. sending positive thoughts for a scramble or a transition year somewhere you enjoy. hang in there and take good care of yourselves.

a* said...

Jenny
After an amazingly crazy confusing year which made me ache every single day, I had to keep telling myself that things happen for a reason~one which is probably not visible right now~keep your chin up, love, there will be a reason for this, too.

Lin said...

Thinking of you from here in Oz :)

amisha said...

thinking of you and joe tonight, jenny. i am so very sorry.
e + i experienced a similar devastating blow last year. it is so very hard. sending you strength-
xo

esther said...

dear jenny,
all things happen for a reason. be sad, but only for a little while ya? after tt, be brave. God is in control of all things.

P R I M O E Z A said...

You both seem like wonderful people that will be able to turn this around and make it good somehow. I also bet that you'll look back in 5 years and see that it was a turn in the road to somewhere better :)

Anonymous said...

It may seem like the worst possible outcome now, but there is something wonderful out there waiting for you two that you can't even see yet.

the road less traveled is always an invitation to a more meaningful and unique life. All the best.

Anonymous said...

I hope this has a happy ending, or beginning. Life is often terribly unfair. But miracles can and do happen.

ute said...

I'm really sorry to hear. A friend of ours went through the same experience and in the end he got the position he wanted. Has Joe looked into the list of unmatched residency positions for this year? Usually the hospitals still have vacancies for their program after the match. But I'm pretty sure Joe is aware of that. Good luck to both of you.

kim said...

Am so sorry to read your news. My heart goes out to you both.

shim + sons said...

xoxo. thinking of you + joe.

emilia said...

i am so sorry for you, take lots lots of care both of you x

Johanna Lu said...

Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that, such terrible news. I was really struck by this as I was just checking in on your blog to tell you that I gave you a Kreativ blogger award. I want to show your amazing blog and designs to the sewing community, because what you do is very very inspiring to me.
Hope everything works out for you guys!

Feli said...

also another long time reader first time commenter, I am so sorry for the both of you.

(((HUGS)))

Grace said...

Something good will come your way. Really it will.

Kelly McClorey said...

so sorry for you and joe. hug each other tight. x

Suzy said...

Oh that sucks. Everyone has said everything already, but I just wanted to let you know I'm sending good thoughts your way. (I'm a long time reader and really admire your creativity and style)

Ally said...

So sorry! What about a move to Portland anyway? Or Canada -- they're always keen for doctors! Hopefully one of your first choices will free up anyway. Sending good thoughts your way!

Tania Ho said...

So, so sorry Jenny ! Sending you a big hug and really good vibes, I'm sure things will work themselves out !

Jen said...

Thinking about you both right now.

Anonymous said...

Oh no! I hope a new opportunity presents itself soon. We're all rooting for you.

ingrid said...

Oh jeez! I'm so sorry!

Antoinette said...

So sorry. You have a lot of fans pulling cosmic energy in your favor. I know things will turn around soon.

sarahkeith said...

Hi Jenny-
I just have to chime in again with all the other voices to say that this dark cloud DOES have a silver lining, and it may take a bit of time before you see it. You seem like a Shining Star, and a very gentle and sweet soul, and I know that wonderful things are in store for you and your little family. So, buckle up, make some delicious comfort foods, and ride out these waves. I know it sucks to be in the hurting phase, but it will get better and something unexpected and perfect will present itself. I don't really have much faith in anything, but the one that I've noticed to be true is that things really do work out better than you would ever imagine.
Thanks for all the inspiration you provide-- I've adored your sweet blog for years now. You have a lot of talent.
best wishes,
sarahkeith

ellen said...

Jenny, i've been enjoying your blog for a year now and have never commented. !'m so sorry! ! know this just takes your breath away.

Janet said...

someone else de-lurking to say I'm so sorry and am thinking of you both and wishing you the best. x

The Lenart's said...

Always reading, never commenting. I am hoping it all works out for you two as you are kick-ass team. All the best. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Cirilia said...

I don't know what to say. That sucks so utterly and neither of you deserve it. If there is anything I can do to cheer you up, just ask.

Malliling said...

Stay the course Jenny!!!
Things happen for a reason. Trust me.
I'm sorry this whole situation sucks so much. I wish you unlimited Blessings.

Jess said...

hi jenny, i wanted to write that i completely agree with sarahkeith, something perfect will present itself in time. we are all thinking of you and sending positive thoughts! xo jess

copperseal said...

don't give up jenny. :(

emily said...

hi jenny,

also a reader/non-commenter - chin up! some times the only thing you can do is take things as they come. things will work out and probably in a way that will have the two of you happier than any thing else would've.

in the meantime, i'm also sending you positive energy!

emily

karen said...

sending LOVE your way.

elventryst said...

Even though it doesn't always feel like it, I know God has great things in store for you. He who began a good work in you will be faithful to complete it. I'll be praying for you and your husband, and I'll keep following along to see where He takes you. XOXO

analern55 said...

I haven't commented on your blog in a very long time. But it's still my favorite blog to read and to look at the beautiful pictures you take. I'm sorry to hear this news, but like a lot of your other readers have said. Something better will come your way. Best of luck with everything!

Miss Kate said...

Do you hear that?

I think I hear a window opening.

Keep you chin up. You will not only survive, but you will thrive!

seashoreknits said...

Jenny - you have to believe there is something else - something better - in store for Joe. Why? Because it is simply unbelievable that there was no offer. It doesn't make any sense, right? Whenever you have an event in your lives that just doesn't make sense, know that it means something. Trust that, and be strong for Joe. I know you will.
Lots of love and hugs to you both -
Teri

anabela said...

Jenny, it took a lot of courage to come back and write this. My heart breaks for you two, and I hope you get to come back and write that everything has worked out just fine. xo

Vilija said...

Jenny,
I've commented a bit and have been reading even longer. My fiance is in a similar boat and didn't even get any interviews. Can Joe scramble yet or does he need to wait until March? We'll be scrambling and have been coming up with plans B, C, D and even E. I can honestly feel your burden and share my sympathy with you. I hope everything works itself out.
Urology is a tough and competitive field, best of luck to both of you.

Courtney said...

best of luck to you both... hang in there, jenny. we're all pulling for you!

dawn said...

ALL THE WAY Jenny! You can do it! : D Just hang in there! And just smile a little, bit by bit! :D

Allison and Jonathan said...

Oh, Jenny. De-lurking to send you both lots of love and strength.

Heather said...

Jenny, I am also a long-time reader and very infrequent commenter, but I just had to let you know my heart sank when I saw this post. I know things will get better for you both, but I hope it is sooner rather than later! Take good care of each other.

pigeon.toed said...

hi jenny, i'm so sorry! just know we're all rooting for you!

Anonymous said...

Hi Jenny - Sending you love from Canada (where we happen to be short on doctors).

*gemmifer* said...

That's such a shame! It is definitely the loss of those organizations not to have chosen Joe. Try not to get too stressed, which I know is much easier said than done. I hope that this happened for a reason, that being so he could end up where he's really meant to be. Have faith, and hang in there.

Kate said...

Oh Jenny, I'm SO sorry to hear that. I hope something will come along to make this better for you...I'm thinking of you.

Anonymous said...

hi jen. i'm also a lurker who admires your work and fabulous sense of style. i'm sorry to hear your bad news. there seems to be a lot of this going around (i think of domino's closing yesterday). don't take the rejection personally. clearly it's part of our economic crisis. the good news is that joe and you are young, healthy and have supportive family and lots of people like us cheering you on. i can think of no better candidates to weather this storm than you two.

you guys are going to make it! you just need to get through this bad part. in the meantime, here are some things that can elevate your mood.
-make a list of everything you're grateful for in your lives.
-get out there and exercise vigorously for 30 min. a day.
-distract yourselves with other activities. (for example, Jen you could start sketching out some ideas for your next line)
-give yourselves a defined time each day to be upset/cry/ruminate about the problem. (ie. "we're going to be really sad and upset from 10-11 a.m.") but then once time is up, go on to something else and put your troubles aside.
-do/eat/read one of your favorite things (indulge yourself a little bit, just like you would a dear friend )
-reach out to family and friends for comfort and support

we all wish you the best!

andothersuchthings said...

Man, I'm so sorry to hear that. It must be a confusing and kind of awful time. But hope I things look up for you two soon. Sending good thoughts your way...

andothersuchthings said...

Man, I'm so sorry to hear that. It must be a confusing and kind of awful time. But hope I things look up for you two soon. Sending good thoughts your way...

ambika said...

I'm so sorry to hear this. Having worked as a residency coordinator, I know there must be programs who are in the same situation (didn't match with their choices for residents). While they may not be the best option, is that something you can explore? Cardiothoracic surgery was in the opposite situation as anesthesia--too many programs and not enough residents. Given how everyone competes for the same residents, though, there must be something for him. Fingers crossed.

hurrayic said...

I'm sorry that you've received very disappointing news. Will pray that things work out better very very soon.

elliebelle said...

Jenny,
I am so sorry for you and Joe. You must be reeling. We all out here in blogland are hoping for the very best for you two. Know that there are many sending positive energy your way. I hope things will work out in the end.
Take care,
Ellie

a.swank.circumference said...

I have also read your blog for some time now, but never commented.

So sorry things aren't going as planned, my heart goes out to you, I know it must be tough.

Anonymous said...

Hi

I've been reading your blog for some time now, and I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear what happened. Sending good thoughts and positive vibes your way.

Christy said...

Jenny, the Lord knows your needs and will provide--trust in Him. Tim and I are praying for you both.

"...for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you. Therefore do not be anxious for tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."
Matthew 6:31-34

Anonymous said...

Just wanted to send you best wishes from Paris...
It will all turn out for the best.
Sam

Jennette said...

Both of you are in my thoughts. Hugs, hugs, HUGS!

Keep it Sleazy said...

Oh pickle, I'm so sorry. As cliched as it is to say, and I hate myself for saying it, usually something good comes of something crap. I have my toes crossed for you guys. x

Sayoko said...

I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm a firm believer that things will work out for the better somehow. Be there for each other and something good, although different than you planned, will come out.

shayna said...

jenny, sending you and joe good thoughts...

Anonymous said...

Wow. I have been checking back here and getting so encouraged by the comments. I've been overwhelmed by worries lately, so it's really nice to read through.

Melissa said...

I am so sorry for what you're going through, I have admired your clothing for some time.

It is, let's call it an "interesting" field that asks people to commit to it at such a young age, requires four years of grueling study and rotations, then "matches" students to residency, which is a minimum of two more years of hell, using a system that is only slightly more sophisticated and fair than that with which fraternities and sororities choose their pledges.

I can't imagine how angry you must both be right now. But I've had a lot of friends who went to med school, and when this happens, it usually works out just fine. It's never how anyone thinks it will go, though.

Best wishes to both of you.

Anonymous said...

Anyone who has been around academia knows that these decisions aren't always based on who is the most qualified candidate.

Amy said...

I'm so sorry you both are going through this tough time right now. This exact same thing happened to a friend of mine, but she was able to find an open spot somewhere and everything turned out okay. I'm completely confident that thing will work out for you two very soon. Good luck!

Sylvie Bozant said...

This may not help at all but has Joe considered any military hospital residency programs such as Tripler Army Medical Center(this is one I grew up next to, granted it's in HI). There may be another way to go about this and still live somewhere you want.
Thanks for your blog. You have been an inspiration to so many and I bet you didn't even know it.
Hang in there...

Heather said...

luck and good wishes to you both.

TheSundayBest said...

If well wishes do anything in this world, and good feelings felt towards people, then something good will happen.

Sending what positive thoughts I have your way.

comfies said...

well this is an extraordinary amount of comments isn't it?! but more importantly, i'm so sorry about the residency. these are some tough times. i'm sending all my best to you both!!!!

erica-knits said...

I'm so sorry to hear the bad news. When Joe is ready to start looking again, Manitoba is really hurting for doctors. (Canada in general, and would be happy to have Joe!)
Here is a contact name for Brandon, Manitoba:
Jocelyn Beever
Phone: (204) 578-4215
Email: beeverj@brandonrha.mb.ca
She could help Joe find out how to apply here in Canada.
My Dad is also employed at the same hospital. Email me if you need some more info/contact information:
erica.smithm@gmail.com

sew nancy said...

so sorry to hear that
hugs to you and hope things work themselves out

snow said...

I send prayers and blessings your way knowing for sure that everything will work out for you both!

Anonymous said...

Not to be nosey but was this an early match program? Because aren't the nationals in March? Asking b/c maybe there's a second chance then? If not, the scramble. There are always surprising opportunities in the scramble. Good luck guys!

Anonymous said...

I've been reading your blog for a long time but have never written until now to say that I hope that everything goes well!!!! Sending good thoughts your way as well!!

Grace Soh said...

Don't worry jenny,

Life will turn around =D

Luck!!

Dorky Parker said...

this is one of my favorite blogs. your clothes, your spirit...everything about you makes me smile. i really hope you turn a corner and find something even better for the both of you.

pulling for you every step of the way.

Anonymous said...

Hey Jennie, I'm sure you guys will figure out your options. It's really disappointing so my sincere sympathies for that. Everyone always says this sort of thing and I always think well, maybe I'll be the exception, but my husband and I have been through many ups and downs in our careers and things have always turned out for the best in the end. You can be 'buddhist' about it and refuse to let yourself get worked up over this, since you don't really know where it will lead you. "This too shall pass" gave me a lot of comfort during the periods when I didn't know what we were going to do. I'm not downplaying the fact that you feel anxious and upset but trying to let you know that two people like you guys are going to be successful and this is just a bump in the road.

{ Love Letter } said...

Jesus loves you both.
All things happen for a reason.
God is in control of all things.

God bless you both...

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry to hear this news. I've read your blog for months and love to read about the beautiful things that you make. I sincerely hope that things work out for the both of you.

Graziella said...

I'm so sorry to hear this Jenny. Don't lose hope.....positive thoughts, cheers and sunshine I send you from Los Angeles....I know things will work out for you both...

Anonymous said...

hello jenny... maybe's just plain stupid ... cause you just don't know me... but i've following your blog...everyday...and i feel i should say something... i just hope you'll get back on track... my mom says "there's so many life's in a single life... what is today ...tomorrow maybe not"... this applies to the worst and best times of our lifes... and believe me i've been through a quite few...
...i hope everything will go for the best... and you'll find your way...

ana

Nantucket Dreams said...

oh dear...i am so so sorry. i hope that there was a reason for this and maybe in a little time it'll become clear...

Colleen said...

jenny, keep your head up high, just remember something good can come from something bad. i wish you and your husband the best.

Anonymous said...

He'll find something really great in the scramble. Blessing in disguise.

Anonymous said...

So sorry for the bad news. I know everyone keeps saying the same thing, but all is true. Things happen for a reason and they always do work out. I hope all 170 comments have helped to console you a little. Many people are pulling for you and Joe. You are a very special and talented woman. You will be fine and persevere. Just don't loose focus and keep working.

layersofmeaning said...

I'm sorry hewr this! I'm sure the something great is just around the corner for you both.
Good luck!

Anonymous said...

time for wikstenmade to go to the next level, eh? things will work out...you have skills and know-how. all will be well.

best of luck while sorting out the next stage.
xx

shannon said...

I have also been reading your blog for a long time and never left a comment but I just want you to know that just because Joe didn't wasn't offered a residency doesn't mean he won't be offered one in the near future. I strongly believe that God has a better plan for you and Joe's life and HE will make a way out of no way just continue to stay strong and pray for strength, HE will see you through. I will keep you and Joe in my prayers.

Anonymous said...

I've read that most of the funding for medical residency comes from HHS (Health and Human Services.) I wonder if this has any effect on the selection process.

ecjbailey said...

Delurking to let you know my fingers are crossed that everything will work out better than fine for you both.

hannah said...

Sorry to hear your news. Have been reading your blog for some time and wanted to wish you hope for the future and the many dreams that are not planned for which are out there waiting for you both.
From a fellow maker accross the water x

grace said...

Hi Jenny, I just wanted to leave a little note of support for you and your husband. I've been a longtime reader or your blog and an admirer of your many skills but have never left a comment. You are so talented I just know things will work out for you. <3!

emily said...

oh, jenny! so much love from your commentators! i send my love along too, for you and joe. many well wishes and a hope for a new meant-to-be path.

odessa said...

i'm so sorry to hear about this Jenny. just know that a lot of people are rooting for you and Joe. *sending lots of love your way*

Anonymous said...

Poor you, it is that kind of disappointment, the kind that comes after a long wait, that is often so hard to deal with. Don't lose hope though, something good will surely come your way : )

Anonymous said...

Some things are just plain hard and there are no two ways about it. God, please have mercy on us all who are going through hard times.

aino said...

Jenny, I'm so sorry to hear that. You both are young, beautiful and talented, and I hope things will work out eventually.
but for now, I'm sending hugs for you both :-)

Anonymous said...

someone told me this great saying

'the barn has burnt down, now i can see the moon'

you won't be able to even comprehend that positives are going to come out of this...but rest assured, they will...it's still far too early to see them.

hang in there and know you're not alone Xs

Virginie said...

I wish you the best Jenny...I hope everything will be ok, I had never left a comment before, juste to say I'm thinking about you from France. Love, Virginie

Anonymous said...

look only ahead.
there are so many other options
and so many great places to live.
p.s.
burlington, vermont has a great residency program!

Grace =) said...

Jenny and Joe,

I'm not sure if I've ever commented here before or not, but I have followed your blog for awhile and am so impressed by the beautiful clothes you sew and the lovely photos you take.

I just wanted to say I've been thinking about you guys and am wishing you all the best.

I'm looking forward to checking back in the near future and seeing that everything turned out better than you ever imagined it would have!

Hang in there~
Gracie :)

SL in DC said...

Another lurker here.. sending you all the best! things will get better. take care.

Lydia said...

I haven't ever commented, but I follow your blog. I'm very sorry to hear this, and I'm hopeful that in the end, things will work out.

raspberryswirl said...

Jenny, my heart and thoughts are with you and Joe. I wish the best for you both and hope that you find comfort in the fact that you have so many people here who care about you. You are not alone.

Anonymous said...

I just wanted to let you know (just like the other 190 folks) that I'm sorry for your news. I'd also like to thank you for being so generous with all of your style recommendations. Your blog is my fave! Say hi again soon. I know everyone misses you. :)

Caroline Marissa Clementine said...

Something good will come out of it! The world works in mysterious ways...

Kaytie said...

dear jenny--i enjoy reading your blog (although never commented), i am sorry to hear of your news. wishing you the best in the coming weeks, i hope things begin to look up. best, kt.

Regi said...

(Jenny), I know I don't know you personally, but I am so sorry. God knows what is best, just hang in there, you path will be revealed how it is meant to be.

Still praying.

Merche Grosso said...

JennyI'm sorry hewr thisI wish the best for you both.

Anonymous said...

Dear Jenny,

I have been following your blog for several months but am not much of a commenter. In this case I am breaking my habitual silence to say I am sorry about the news and wish you both the best. Thank you for sharing your blog.

Steph said...

Oh Jenny - I'm so sorry. I hope that something works out for you and Joe. You know... it's nice here in Canada, even though it's far from home.

Rachel said...

I'm so sorry! How disappointing.
I hope you both will be able to soldier on and overcome.

seldom said...

hug from down under -- I wish you beauty and smiles.
xx

SerendipitousTrout said...

My heart sunk as well. I'd been checking your blog constantly to see the outcome. I wanted to wish you both well also. I'm sure everything will work out in the end. And, judging that I'm the 200th commentor, you've got a lot of well-weishers.
Hang in there, you two are very lucky to have found each other. Hard times aren't nearly as hard when you are with the one you love.
Emily

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