5.08.2009

and we're back


taking a break from apartment hunting, at a cafe on south Bedford

Joe and I came back early from New York yesterday after signing a lease on an apartment. We found a place in Williamsburg, Brooklyn, off the Lorimer stop on the L train, right near Dumont (you know, one of those place that serves expensive mac and cheese) and Union Pool. We chose Williamsburg because Joe will be able to get to and from work very quickly (important when he's on call). St. Vincent's is right at the 14th St/Union Square stop. Also, most of my friends live in Williamsburg. Convenience is key--otherwise I'd want to live in a nicer neighborhood, like Carroll Gardens (where we used to live). I definitely wouldn't call our new neighborhood nice. It's slightly sketchy. But then again I'm used to living in an idyllic, cute little Kansas neighborhood where we don't even have to lock our doors.

So the last week was pretty sucky. We stayed with Joe's brother in Red Hook while apartment hunting in Williamsburg, so we had to walk. A LOT. In the cold rain. It rained non-stop while we were there. We spent four days straight wet, cold, and tired, looking at expensive apartments that were total crap-holes. I think I said, "I hate New York" about 800 times. I was so discouraged that by day three I just stopped speaking all together. I was too depressed to even complain anymore. Finally, at the end of the fourth day, we somehow found a miracle, an apartment that we could afford that didn't make us want to puke. So what if the bathroom is so tiny there's no room for a sink? The stove looks like this. Yeah, totally awesome. In fact, the whole apartment is very vintage and unique. (I really prefer that to those newly renovated apartments that have about as much character as a dorm room.) Also, it has a back yard. With a garden, benches, and a grill. And one entire side of the apartment is covered with built in wood cabinets and shelves for storage. The guy who lives there now is an artist who paints and designs window displays for Bergdorf Goodman and Barney's, and he's moving to Sweden indefinitely. He's subletting to us and leaving his paintings and some furniture. I'm pretty happy about it--the apartment's a steal, and I really like his paintings.

So things are looking up. Except for the fact that I'm feeling somewhat torn about moving back to New York. At this point in my life I feel like I've sort of already been there done that. In a way moving there feels like taking a step backwards. Now that I'm older my priorities have changed a bit, and I'm less concerned with living in the hippest city in the country and competing in that arena and more concerned with living a peaceful life and having good relationships. Right now I live on a quiet street in Kansas. There are no crowds, no loud street noises, no rat race. It's hard to give that up. It's hard to give up having my own studio in my home. In New York, our apartment will be small, and my studio space will have to be combined with the living room or bedroom. I'll be the first to admit that I'm completely spoiled, and living in New York is so expensive that I will not be able to have the quality of life that I'm used to. Yes, there will be outstanding restaurants and shops and fun things to do there. But I'm not sure I'll be able to afford any of those things. These are all thoughts that I'm struggling with now. In a perfect world, I'd move with a positive attitude and be super excited and ready for anything. But in my heart I know that's not how I really feel. What I do know is that I'll try to make the best of it and see how it goes. Oh, the crazy things we do for love.

65 comments:

modaspia said...

good luck with everything jenny.

miss sophie said...

jenny this was such an eloquently written post. your struggles and mixed feelings are shared by a lot of people who read your blog, and i'm always grateful that you're willing to share so much with us. it's great that you already have so many friends in nyc. best of luck with things before, during and after your move :)

martha said...

glad you found a place that seems decent (I agree, I hate those newly renovated places) and good luck with everything.

Pattern and Perspective said...

I kind of know how you feel. My parents always had whatever they wanted (so it seemed) and retired quite early in life (58 - ish). I live with my bf in his hometown, not mine, and it's boring. I think I could have a better lifestyle somewhere else -- but the problem here is the jobs pay low and there aren't any...I wish I could move somewhere where jobs weren't scarce (is that realistic anymore?) and life was a bit easier.

Krisitn said...

Your feelings are familiar. A neighbor once said something simple yet poignant while I was complaining about my circumstances. Another came to me in a fortune cookie. The third is something my old boss used to say all the time while he created constant upheval. And finally, there is one thing my mom always used to tell me. Here they are:

"Well, you just have to do the best you can with what you have."
-- Bob

"When you encounter rocky soil, plant what will grow there."
-- Cookie

"Change is always first experienced as loss."
-- Boss

"Be intrepid!"
-- Mom

Just some things that stick in my head and are handy when I need them.

Can't wait to see you persevere with your usual grace and style.

erica said...

i'm not even moving there but every time i visit, i say 'i hate new york' at least once. it's probably because we never have a home base while in the city so i get cranky from walking too much, never being able to find a clean restroom, and hemorraghing money.

that stove looks awesome, and i know you'll figure out a way to make things good in your new place. just think, a backyard with benches and a grill! work space is always hard to come by, but there's nothing like being forced to be super organized and inventive with the space you have.

Anonymous said...

my goodness, having moved to Berlin, I feel so many of the same things you describe. Do I really need all this big city stuff? It has so much to offer, but can I even afford it? What about all the people I left behind, etc. I hope it works out, for both of us.

melissa k w said...

i'm from new york, but can't live in the immediate nyc area for all the reasons you say. at the same time i miss it constantly. i hope you can find your niche, the second time around. when i lived in the nyc area, i made sure to take lots of weekend trips to upstate, new england, etc. there are so many great smaller art museums, galleries, country towns with boutiques, etc etc etc to visit, and they help you to relax and breathe. and you are moving in spring/summer which is a great time to explore.

good luck with everything! i hope you get inspired.

vanessa.e. said...

moving is ALWAYS tough, especially when you feel like it's a step backwards. but I think you'll find it's a different place than you left behind. living in the city doesn't have to be about competition and rat races. if you go there seeking to peacefully state of mind and meaningful relationships, then I think that's what you'll find. good luck!!

Anonymous said...

The things we do for love, and future careers, indeed! Just think of it as paying your dues: it will pay off. Not only for you, but for those future patients. Hard times, indeed; I don't envy you--Kansas sounds just about perfect, and there's no place like home.... I can so relate to Erica's comment whenever I find myself, usually involuntarily, in a big gritty city. Keep us posted as you settle in!

olive said...

jenny, this sounds exactly like my life at the moment. i live in a big apt in a quiet neighborhood, but my boy got a job at columbia so we are moving to NYC this summer.

im excited to start a new chapter in my life, but at the same time im really sad (and scared!) to leave the place i grew up in and lived in for 25 years.

you always seem to handle every obstacle with such grace and im sure the move to new york will be no different. best of luck to you an joe :)

Kelly and Kelly said...

I know you know this already, but it's worth repeating I think (for me as much as for you). Life takes us on a journey, an adventure if you will, and I feel like everything happens the way it does for a reason. I feel like we are learning lessons as we go and as we look back we can see and know what lesson we were to learn. How we were to grow. What changes needed to happen. But right now it might just hurt and that's okay too.

I know you will adjust just fine and I can't wait to hear about it (I hope you continue blogging about it!). Best of luck to you on this new chapter.

Anonymous said...

Great post....I live in NYC; I ask the same questions that you do, only kind of in reverse. can I live somewhere that's not NYC? Would it be worth it to have a house/space/more $$$ but not the diversity/cheap and free concerts/theater, the farmer's market, the food shops with everything from the entire world? Would I lose my creativity? Michele in NYC

Claudia said...

I would love to tell you that it's super cool to have a sewing area in a living room and that New York is the best place in the world for you but I won't. However, I know that we can adapt to so many things. It will take some time but you will find happiness over there...of course, you are super-wonderful-talented-totally cute Jenny :)

Anonymous said...

When I read your post I thought, "I really like this girl." So well said. We moved from a hip place to a slower place for the house and kids. Let's just was a real conversation killer to say where we had moved to. Yet we discovered how kind the people are and I don't know that we'd ever want to move back to the hip arty place now. Having said that, there's still a sense of loss when we go back to "visit" the hip place for stores and restaurants...in a way that place still feels like home, the place that can relax me...and I can still feel sad that I no longer have the budget to participate in the clothes, etc. the way I used to. It's all part of the beauty of life, isn't it...changing into something new and yet still missing the "something other" that we used to know.

Best wishes, and thanks for sharing. -M

*gemmifer* said...

Jenny, I'm sure it will be a tough adjustment moving to Brooklyn, but you and Joe will have each other (and your NY-based friends) and will carve out a life for yourselves in the city. Of course it will be very different from your life in Kansas, but you are creative and energetic and will find your place in NYC (not going back to your earlier life in NYC, but going forward).

The apartment is a great start--how lucky to sublet from a Bergdorf's window decorator! They have the most incredible store windows in NY. And just think of all of the incredible little shops in the city, selling all those great lesser-known designers...

Lyn Spataro said...

"You can never go back to the same place twice" as they say - whoever "they" are, but I think it's an important thing to remember. You have grown and the place you knew has changed as well. This means there are all of these wonderful opportunities for new adventures - which you get to have with your best bud - who could beat that? From what it sounds like, the experience you had before living in NYC was when you were younger and single. But now you'll get to see the city through new eyes and new experiences with each other and that's a great gift. I agree with you about living in a city is much less idyllic in many ways compared to the alternative, but there are also great things about it too - especially NYC. Amazing museums, galleries, artist communities, music, great cheap authentic eateries/bakeries, and amazing people - the list goes on. Plus, you will be close enough to travel to New England and all sorts of areas outside the city - there are many great small towns beyond the city limits (as you might know already since living there). I grew up in central NJ and now live in SF via Boston, but have spent a lot of time in NYC as well. I look forward to keeping up with you on your new adventure in an old city. Best of luck!!

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Anonymous said...

Also, believe it or not, the years there will go fast.

cindy : quaint said...

good luck in your new place. you'll come around and make a happy home there because that's what you do. it will be ok. you're so lucky to have a back garden. we love williamsburg.

Lena said...

hi,
i just wrote you an email, and then read this post. i'm sorry you had such an awful visit! it has been raining non stop!! your new apt sounds great (despite being small), and i think that's a key component in being happy here, when you're over the age of 25. i hope these coming years end up being wonderful for you & joe.

cindy : quaint said...

i forgot to say, when you're settled and start to feel inspired, i'm sure there will be opportunities in williamsburg shops for your wiksten line if you want to take that road with your business. the shop bird comes to mind right away - http://shopbird.com/. there's something good is waiting for you there, jenny. you will find it.

Jennette said...

I am glad you'll be in the neighborhood! There's a good bar to knit at on Grand, but there's also my house! ;)

Jennette said...

I posted my comment too early. I think the feelings you are struggling with are perfectly normal. I am such a midwesterner and it has taken me nearly 8 years of living in NY/NJ to feel like I could be comfortable here. You wrote:

"Now that I'm older my priorities have changed a bit, and I'm ...more concerned with living a peaceful life and having good relationships. Right now I live on a quiet street in Kansas. There are no crowds, no loud street noises, no rat race."

Me, too. Except I live on a quiet street (for NY) in Brooklyn, maybe 7 or 8 blocks from your new place (I'm guessing). There are less crouds, fewer street noises, and little rat race evident on my corner. You can find lovely midwestern people and lovely non-midwesterners here, as well as quiet moments. Which is not to say you are wrong to feel conflicted about the move. Just that I hope you find some beauty in it, too.

brooke said...

We are getting ready to move away from Kansas City for my husband's job as well and I can relate to everything you just said. I do really just want to live a quiet peaceful life with good relationships and I have that here. Its hard to leave when you are happy.

Maria said...

hoping that everything will turn out all right, better than all right, wonderful! you will build a new happy home in nyc.

habitual said...

:( That stinks. I can relate 100%. The *only* thing I had said repeatedly was when my husband was applying to grad school was "I will move anywhere BUT Boston, please god not Boston". Then he got into Harvard and couldn't say no. When we moved to this city-I-hated I was alone all. the. time! To say I became depressed is the understatement of the decade.... 7 years later we are still here. It almost killed us and our marriage, but after the first 18 months of complete misery I had to make a choice. So, I made a pact with myself that I wish I'd made sooner: I made myself think of 3 personal/intangible things I loved about being here. And when I got really down, I focused on those 3 things, no matter how small. This opened me up to new possibilities and experiences. Eventually, I made friends and got involved (though this is a transient town and those friends have since all moved away, sigh).... and let go of the fact that we couldn't afford our dreamhouse. Our loft is great, and we've made a little life for ourselves!
All of my family is back in Chicago, and Chicago will always be 'home' in my heart. But there are things I love about living here that would be very, very difficult to give up (sea air, proximity to Maine, tiny living radius/footprint, walking everywhere).
Try to make a little pact with yourself. It's going to be tough, and Joe will be gone A LOT. So you will have to dig down and carve out your own bit of happiness... but I know you can do it!! :) We all believe in you! Just think of all the good food...
I love NY. LOVE it. It was one of my three things I liked about Boston for a while (ha ha)... but I know it would be so tough to live there. Stay strong and as positive and you can. And forgive yourself when you slip back and mope. You'll find your footing!

jen said...

just remember that everything happens for a reason. i'm sure you will find little things that can make you love ny, or at least like it. i often struggle with these same feelings and think about moving away from ny all the time. maybe we can find some hidden nooks or get together at a quaint little cafe and pretend we are somewhere else once you move here. just try to focus on doing what makes you happy and it does not matter where you are.

valerie said...

ohhhh jenny! i totally understand these sentiments and feel them myself ALL THE TIME. we've been in nyc almost two years and while it has definitely grown on me, it is not Home and not cozy and NO FUN in the rain. but! it sounds like your apartment is going to be pretty awesome. a backyard! i'm jealous. that will be a nice retreat, i'm sure. also, you could do much worse than the lorimer stop on the L! trust me.
and there is fun to be had on the cheap! ian and i will have to have you and joe over for dinner some time, ok?

Cirilia said...

Any time you need to escape, I'm in Providence (which I hate out loud at least once daily, but am starting to like a LITTLE) and I'm also always up for a road trip back to my TRUE home, the quiet, soothing but stimulating, happy sigh inducing Pioneer Valley.

I hope you'll find that the city has changed with you...?

Cirilia said...

Also I'm glad you acknowledge not wanting to participate in the competition that is living in a city or 'being' a designer. I'm new at this persona and I sort of hate feeling like I have to spend money (microscopic amounts compared to what NY people must drop) to be part of the game. It feels like high school all over again and I'm fighting it as much as possible =/

hibou said...

My heart aches as I read your words. I know that you will thrive in your new home, but I can really understand your doubts and sense of loss. I admire the way you are handling it: honest about your feelings, yet moving forward with such grace. Yes, the crazy things we do for love! I'll be thinking of you.
Jennifer

P.S. That stove made me shudder with vintage envy!

shelbyisms. said...

I LOVE bottled Coke!

emilia said...

Good luck jenny change is so hard sometimes but I really hope it is nothing but goodness for you.Thankyou for all you share and lots of good thoughts from far away in England to you .emilia x

jennifer said...

welcome to the neighborhood, jenny. on the bright side, close proximity to dumont is definitely a plus...have you eaten outside on their back patio?

stephanie renee said...

i appreciate you sharing and i totally know how you feel. at least you will have a little green space to call your own. and on a side note, i really enjoy your blog

Leila said...

I don't have any words of wisdom for you as I'm about ready to move out of New York myself (for the same reasons you cite for not wanting to move here) but, for what it's worth, as you describe your apartment, it would make me want to stay a bit longer (I'd LOVE to have some outdoor space and I live in one of the unfun, recently rennovated apartments). At least you are in a pretty good area, even if it may seem sketchy at first. But it is always hard to move. Good luck!

heather said...

i feel like for once i'm reading the words of someone who would understand me! we moved to london from a small town in new mexico this past fall. it is an incredible city, but my husband took a pay cut and i'm not allowed to work (although i have 2 daughters to keep me busy). we sold 2 cars and now have a crappy old car to share. we sold all of our stuff and moved only what we could take on the plane. we left a spacious house for a little townhouse. we started all over again and although we live in an amazing city, we have no money to really get into it. i, like you, feel like i don't need all this at my stage in life. we've lived all over the states and i'd trade this for small town life with good friends and roots for my girls. blessings to you on your journey. hope you enjoy your time in NY again and then get to settle into an idyllic life soon after!

my name is elly said...

so beautifully put, jenny. you're handling everything so well.

i can't help but scream a good Z105 "AND WE'RE BAAAAAACK!!!!" when i read the title.

Myra - twigs and honey said...

I'm so happy you two found a place to live that isn't a dump! I think cleanliness makes all the difference in the world. If it helps at all, while I was a poor grad student in Cali, Matt and I lived in a corner studio apt. in the middle of downtown Sacramento. It was tiny, had a murphy bed and the shower backed up with the bile of all the other tenants on more than one occasion. Emergency vehicles whizzed by in the evenings, and traffic during the day was ridiculous. This was 3 years ago now, but it was one of our most favorite expereinces and we talk about it with fondness every week, still! We lived such a humble life, but something about the limited resources made us appreciate all the little things that much more and we are both stronger as a couple and as individuals for it.

Good luck, you two!

elisabete duarte said...

Well, I just want to say welcome back! I totaly undestand you about NY, and about your new neigborhood. Two years ago i remember to look for , at least, 17 appartmets, all terrible, including at williamsburg. I use to live at Greenpoint...lovely! Now i'm at Astoria, little more calm, special if you have a kid 13 monts old! :)
Good luck with L train, I use to wait for the tird or fouth to be able to get in...
I love your blog, special your kniting (thats how I found you). I know a very nice store in Manhattan, next to Union Square.
I hope you can go back soon to your cloths and knit projects, I will be waiting on this side for some news.
Good Luck!

pigeon.toed said...

congrats on finding an apartment! i love williamsburg! my friend lives there and i visited her in september! dumont's burgers are amazing! once again, congrats!

Modern Crush said...

For what it's worth, here is a hug from California... x

jessica said...

hey jenny,
i've been reading your blog for a while but never commented. i have to say i've been feeling the same way as you lately. i've lived in new york all my life and now my boyfriend wants to move to philadelphia. i'm really having similar mixed feelings. i'm really going to miss my neighborhood and my family and friends, but i'm hoping that everything will turn out okay. and i think everything thing will work out for you. new york is a great place! good luck!
<3 jes

p.s. as someone else said you should definitely take a trip upstate, to the catskills. it's wonderful up there. also you should go to rockaway. it's by the ocean and it's really quiet and relaxing here :)

Anonymous said...

hang in there girl. you can do this! :)

Anonymous said...

Hey Congratulations to Dr. Joe! Doesn't doctor sound great. Ah bumps in the road of life turn into beautiful memories.

Anonymous said...

For me, living in the suburbs with kids, it sounds like so much fun to have the freedom to move to New York. I know only a couple of people there, so it would have been a big move for us and we never did it. Maybe you will not have the $ for the kind of life you're leading now, or the space, but it's a chance to try a different type of life and to know it's just temporary. Like taking a year to backpack through Europe with only what you can carry! Very freeing. And the apt sounds great! Joe is moving on to great things--in time you'll be more spoiled than ever, and you can choose where to live when he's done. Have fun!

gretchen said...

new york is definitely a lot more challenging than kansas. but brooklyn is awesome. i left brooklyn years ago but find reasons to go back all the time. i love it there. i also love your blog and appreciate your thoughts very much. a considered and thoughtful life is a wonderful thing, no matter where you go or what you do.

Anonymous said...

Your husband is a doctor for christ sake ! Mine just lost his job... Stop complaining, you ARE spoiled...

claire said...

it is all about the love jenny. i say that to myself every day. and it's worth it.

you should try thinking more about the love too anonymous up there. or don't bother saying anything at all.

Anonymous said...

Hi Jenny. I lurk on your blog from time to time and am so inspired by your creativity and honesty. I wanted to post as I'm in a similar situation. My husband and I just moved to Denver for his job from a cute little house in Waldo (KCMO). We can't afford anything out here either and pricewise it's nothing compared to New York! I miss Kansas City for all the reasons you mention. But we are finding our way here and are working on being in the present. Enjoy all the culture and friendships in New York and know that one day you may make your way west again!

jules said...

I can relate to the feeling that comes when choices are made for us, or simply out of our control. My husband and I are trying to figure out our next moves (literally and figuratively) and so much is out of our control at this point. It's really frustrating. I really try to remind myself that home is what and where you make it and that you have to work for it in one way or another no matter where you are. I hope that you will find some peace with your move, and remember that there is a great creative community in Brooklyn...

Nantucket Dreams said...

i can totally identify with your feelings. all i can say is make the best of it. that's really all anyone can do. and remember, you're there together. :) we'll be reading about it and routing foryou!

- Tracy said...

One time I moved and was so depressed. I kept having the feeling that I needed to bloom where I was planted and if I could make my home for my little family here I could make it anywhere. This concept has given me strength over the years. You to can bloom where you are planted, in fact I have a feeling after following your blog for awhile that that is probably with will happen.

Anonymous said...

Wow, Heather, we did almost the same thing. Sold virtually EVERYTHING including our newish car, drove a really cruddy old van 2000 miles to our new "home" in the Midwest. When we got there the job that was promised was no longer available...4 kids under 6, you get the picture. It took a long time, but we finally got some traction. I hope things work out for you; I know London is expensive, like NEW YORK! This is such a cliche' but in a situation like that it really is ONE DAY AT A TIME. I think I wore holes in the knees of my jeans praying.

Grace said...

I'm contemplating a possible move to Queens or Brooklyn for a cool career. However, I would leave great weather, friends, colleagues, and a cooperative house in Berkeley. The pace, noise, striving, and cost of living in New York are quite intimidating and I ultimately want to live on the west coast. Add a long distance relationship to the mix and it gets more complicated. I admire your commitment and willingness to plunge into the big city.

potty mouth mama said...

A beautiful post and your photos are beautiful too.

We're about to move soon too. I'm dreading it. Stalling as much as possible. I'm scared, sad and nervous.

Here's to new places and new faces. I know you and Joe will make a beautiful life together there.
(AND what about that stove - phwoar!)

andothersuchthings said...

I know how you feel. But as that neighborhood used to be my old stomping grounds, here are some things to look forward to:
Fortunato Brothers: http://www.yelp.com/biz/fortunato-brothers-brooklyn
for a scoop of Gelato, assorted pastries and espresso.

The backyard at Dumonts. Yes, it is pricey, but its also fun to just get a drink and sit in back. Also that Thai place on Metropolitan has a backyard...

The Garden Grill on Graham Ave. http://gardengrillcoffeeshop.com/
A great diner, when you want some plain old diner food. They knew our names there...

Grand Morelos on Grand St. 24 hour Mexican Bakery/Diner. A little dingy, but cheap and sweet. Fun place to watch the World Cup.

Harefield Road. A gorgeous Irish Pub on Metropolitan.

Oddly the person who's in your new apartment now, sounds like someone I went to college with... Good luck with the move!

anna said...

what in the world? you make insanely beautiful clothes that sell out within minutes of putting them up for sale! and you are moving to new york! you'll have a small group of ladies making your designs in no time and so many stores begging to sell your creations. you will soon look fondly back at that teeny little apartment as enjoy your spacious studio, making things just for fun.
this is wonderful! this is fate!

Ringo, have a banana! said...

My boyfriend lives right around the corner from where you'll be, on Metropolitan and Lorimer by the Alligator Lounge! I wouldn't be at all surprised if I see you 'round. And even though I'm sure it feels sketchier than where you are now, it's totally fine believe me, I spend way too much time over there at all hours of the day and night.

Now you can know the joys of going to Hana at 3am to buy mango slices and a hideously over-priced sandwich! Cheers Thai right down the street from Alligator Lounge has good Thai Food, and Yola's has great chorizo tacos. Whatever you do, don't get sucked in to going to Kellogg's Diner, oh how they suck!

*aja said...

I deeply appreciated your post - the mixed feelings and sense of loss and a little bit of confusion thrown in - those are ingrediants to make anxiety soup :) But you are being honest with yourself which is beautiful and just remember you can bring your peace with you anywhere you go. Sending much love and good luck!

Alana said...

Funny, I'm in the opposite position, I'm moving to Upstate New York, small quiet town, away from Brooklyn. And I feel those same mixed sad emotions about leaving this place that I love.

annkent said...

Oh gosh, I am a little late here with this comment but ... have you seen The Diving Bell & The Butterfly (French film) about Jean Dominique Bauby, former editor of French Elle? If you are feeling the blues, watch this movie! It is wonderful (see my review) and it will lift you up out of the fog forever! I promise. All the best and keep working on it ... I love your style and your clothes (PS for encouragement, read The Tipping Point by Macolm Gladwell)!

All the best!

brklyngirl said...

Welcome to the neighborhood! Let me know if you would ever like to go for some coffee/tea...would love to meet you!
:)
jeanie

Jessica said...

Hi Jenny! I rarely write comments on blog posts, but I just wanted to give you a virtual hug because I completely understand your feelings about moving to New York. There is a lot of sacrifice, and at times I really don't see what it is all for. I love New York and I hate New York.

But, your neighborhood is a good one full of nice people - and some overly hip ones. I live off the Lorimer L-stop too! I suggest venturing to the parks as much as you can. It has made all the difference for me! Good Luck - I know you will settle in well.